Dear friends,
As we enter the season of Ordinary Time, I am reminded that nothing is ever ordinary. Yet there is something about the word “ordinary” that fits. Not in the sense of boring or dull but as an “in-between” season, a time to breathe after the culmination of the celebratory days.
Just as most of our days are lived between the big events, the church year is filled with more ordinary days than holidays. The holy days are the mountaintops, whereas Ordinary Time is the slopes, valleys and flatlands. All are beautiful — and all are necessary.
Those valleys and flatlands are often where healing takes place. It is a safe space where we can embrace the transformative power of vulnerability and the courage to confront our deepest wounds.
We all have a journey of trauma healing — whether it came from abuse, grief, disaster or even religion. My journey recovering from religious trauma has been filled with twists and turns, leading me to the realization that healing is a sacred and ongoing process. And it requires us to be vulnerable, which feels counterintuitive in the moment.
We continue our ongoing exploration of “healing” and “repair” in our blog posts and stories. They teach us that healing from religious trauma often requires us to reshape our spiritual identity independently. Filtering through the debris of rigid doctrines, inherited theological concepts, and damaging or poisonous ideologies allows us to discover the core of our genuine spirituality, bestowed by a higher power.
Embracing self-compassion means allowing ourselves to be imperfect, recognizing that healing is a journey and that it’s OK to lean on others for support. Perfection is not the goal. Leading from a place of humanness is very much in line with the ministry of Jesus.
As you delve into the stories below, seek out the insights nestled within, ones that resonate and beckon to be woven into your own journey. Though the imprints of religious trauma may linger, they need not define our leadership; instead, they can be harnessed as sources of profound wisdom.